When Positive Thinking Doesn't Work: Fighting Depression
In the modern world, we are surrounded by a cult of positive thinking. We are told that it's enough to simply «think positively,» «visualize success,» and «get into a positive mindset» to solve all our problems. This idea sounds very tempting, but it can be incredibly dangerous, especially when we're talking about a serious illness like depression. A person who is depressed can't just «pull themselves together» and start thinking positively. And when they try to do so and fail, they feel even more guilty and helpless, which only worsens their condition. They begin to believe that they are not only ill but also not strong enough to cope with it.
The truth is that depression is not just a bad mood but a serious illness that affects not only the psyche but also physiology. And fighting it with just positive thoughts is like trying to heal a broken leg with willpower. In this article, we'll break down why positive thinking doesn't work for depression and what real, scientifically-backed steps you need to take to fight this condition.
1. Depression is Not Laziness or a Lack of Character
The main myth associated with depression is that it's a result of laziness or weakness. In reality, it's a serious medical condition. Neurobiological studies show that depression is linked to changes in the brain, such as a neurotransmitter imbalance (serotonin, dopamine, norepinephrine) and decreased activity in certain brain areas responsible for emotions and motivation. When you tell a person with depression, «Just be happy,» you are ignoring the true nature of their condition.
Why positive thinking doesn't work:
- Lack of energy. A person with depression is physically exhausted. They don't have the strength for even simple household tasks, let alone «visualizing success.»
- Cognitive distortions. Depression distorts thinking. The person sees the world in a negative light, and it's very difficult for them to switch to a positive mindset.
- Feeling of guilt. When a person tries to think positively and it doesn't work, they start to feel guilty, which makes their condition even worse.
Positive thinking is a good tool for people who have the strength and motivation. But for a person who is depressed, it can be not only useless but also harmful.
2. When Does Positive Thinking Become «Toxic»?
The cult of positivity can be dangerous when it turns into «toxic positivity.» «Toxic positivity» is the denial or suppression of negative emotions under the guise of «positive thinking.» This manifests in phrases like: «Don't be sad,» «Look on the bright side,» «Just smile.» This not only invalidates a person's feelings but also prevents them from working through their problems. When a person suppresses their emotions, they don't disappear. They accumulate like water in a dam and can burst at some point. That's why it's so important not to suppress negativity but to become aware of it, accept it, and work with it. If you're in a black streak, then being aware of your feelings, not suppressing them, is a key step.
3. What to Do Instead of «Positive Thinking»?
If positive thinking doesn't work, what should you do? The answer is simple: you need to focus on actions, not thoughts. Depression paralyzes a person. And the main task is to get this mechanism running again. It's as if a car has stalled. You can sit inside as much as you want and think about how well it used to drive. But for it to go, you need to do something: check the engine, add gas, or call for help. The same goes for depression. Here are a few practical steps that actually work:
- Step 1: Start small. Don't try to «move mountains» right away. Set the smallest goal that doesn't require a lot of strength. For example, get out of bed, take a shower, or take out the trash. Achieving even small goals will give you a sense of satisfaction and gradually bring back your motivation.
- Step 2: Create an «activity schedule.» Depression robs us of structure. Create a simple schedule for the day: wake up, breakfast, a walk, some task. It shouldn't be complicated. The main thing is to structure your day.
- Step 3: Seek support. You don't have to deal with this alone. Talk to loved ones who understand you, or see a psychotherapist. Psychotherapy is not a sign of weakness; it's an act of courage. It's the most effective way to deal with depression.
- Step 4: Take care of your body. Our emotional state is directly dependent on our physical health. Proper nutrition, physical activity (even a little), and sleep are incredibly important for recovery. Physical exercise is a powerful antidepressant. It increases the levels of serotonin and dopamine.
Remember that fighting depression is not a race. It's a marathon. Your task is not to defeat it in one day but to simply move forward, step by step. And every step you take is a small victory that brings you closer to recovery.
We've discussed that our life is not a predetermined script but a set of beliefs that we can change. We've seen that the root of depression is in our internal blocks, not in external circumstances. Understanding this is, of course, an important step. But how do you move from understanding to action? How do you learn to make the right choices when it seems like everything is against you? I once found myself in a similar situation, where I had a lot of theoretical knowledge, but my life was not getting better. This is what prompted me to create the step-by-step guide «The Labyrinth of Life.» This book is a practical guide that will help you not only understand the causes of your failures but also start taking action to permanently get out of your «black streak» and get your life back on track. To begin your journey toward change, simply go to the very beginning, to the «Introduction» section.
