What Internal Beliefs and Attitudes Prevent You From Becoming a Fortunate Person?

Everyone is familiar with the phrase: "Bad luck." We say it when something goes wrong and often attribute our failures to a series of circumstances, misfortune, or even fate. At the same time, we see that other people seem to be lucky all the time. They easily find jobs, build relationships, and achieve success. Why are some people lucky and others not? Maybe it's not about luck, but about something deeper? What if our luck isn't a coincidence, but a result of our internal beliefs and attitudes that we don't even realize we have?

From a psychological point of view, our internal beliefs are the filters through which we perceive the world. These beliefs, formed in childhood and under the influence of our experiences, determine what we consider possible and what we consider impossible. If we believe deep down that "luck is something that happens to other people," we will subconsciously find confirmation of that belief. We will ignore opportunities, miss clues, and sabotage our own efforts to prove to ourselves that we were right. And vice versa, if we believe that "luck is the result of our actions," we will see more opportunities, take risks, and act more decisively.

These beliefs are not just thoughts. They determine our actions. For example, a person who is convinced that "all rich people are evil and dishonest" will subconsciously avoid success and wealth to remain "good." And as long as we don't recognize and change these beliefs, we will continue to go in circles, blaming external circumstances for our failures.

What Beliefs Prevent Us From Becoming Fortunate?

Here are some of the most common internal beliefs that block our success and create black streaks in our lives:

• "Luck is a coincidence." This belief makes us passive. We believe that we can't do anything and just wait for the "stars to align." This leads to inaction and missed opportunities.
• "I'm not worthy of success." This belief is often associated with low self-esteem. We think we don't deserve a good job, a happy relationship, or wealth. And so we either don't try to achieve these goals or we sabotage them when they get too close.
• "Money is evil." This belief is often passed down from generation to generation. It makes us fear money, avoid financial success, and believe that wealth will destroy us or ruin our relationships.
• "Success requires huge effort." This belief makes us think that to achieve success you have to work yourself to the bone, suffer, and sacrifice yourself. And, fearing this, we give up on our goals.
• "I have to be perfect." The fear of making a mistake can completely paralyze us. We prefer inaction to avoid criticism and failure. We believe that perfection is the only guarantee of success, and this belief makes us incapable of even taking the first step.

These beliefs are often unconscious, but they are what control our decisions and actions. Recognizing them is the first step toward regaining control over your life.

How to Change Your Beliefs and Become a Fortunate Person?

Changing deep-seated beliefs is not a quick process. It requires awareness, patience, and systematic self-work. But the result is worth it.

1. Recognize and Name Your Beliefs

The first step is to become a "detective" for your thoughts. For a few days, write down all the negative thoughts that come into your head. Especially those that start with "I can't," "I'm not worthy," "it's impossible." By naming these beliefs, you will take away some of their power.

2. Find Evidence to the Contrary

Now that you see your negative beliefs, try to find evidence that refutes them. For example, if you are convinced that "all rich people are evil," look for success stories of people who achieved wealth but remained kind and generous. Find small moments in your life when you were lucky. It could be something simple: "I arrived at the bus stop on time," "I got a compliment from a stranger."

3. Replace Negative Beliefs with Positive Ones

Create a list of new, positive beliefs. For example, instead of "I'm not worthy of success," say: "I am worthy of all the best in this life." Instead of "Luck is a coincidence," say: "I create my own luck." Repeat these affirmations every day, like a mantra. This will help your brain get used to new thoughts and start acting in accordance with them.

4. Take Action Despite the Fear

Even if you are scared, take small steps toward your goals. If you're afraid of public speaking, start by speaking in front of one or two friends. If you're afraid to ask for a raise, just prepare a list of your accomplishments. Action is the best way to overcome fear.

5. Create a "Circle of Luck"

Surround yourself with people who believe in success and support you. Spend time with those who have already achieved what you are striving for. Their example will help you believe that luck is not a privilege for a select few, but the result of self-work. Remember that your environment influences your mindset.

Luck is not a mystical force but the result of our internal state. By changing your beliefs, you will change your perception of the world and become open to new opportunities. This way, you will not only get out of a temporary black streak but also find inner harmony and self-confidence.

Frequently Asked Questions

Why do some people always get lucky while I don't?

Luck often depends not on destiny, but on your internal perceptual filters. Lucky people are subconsciously tuned to notice opportunities even in difficult situations, while negative mindsets force you to ignore them. To change the situation, you need to re-evaluate your core beliefs about the world. Try using your focus to find at least three lucky moments throughout the day.

How can I tell if my internal mindsets are preventing me from achieving success?

The main sign is a recurring scenario of failure and a sense of a "glass ceiling." If you often catch yourself thinking things like "money is evil" or "I don't deserve this," it means your mindsets are working against you. These filters block your activity and force you to make the wrong decisions. Becoming aware of these phrases is the first step toward changing them.

What should I do if I’m used to blaming external circumstances for everything?

Stop playing the role of the "victim" and reclaim responsibility for your life. The victim position is convenient because it requires no change, but it completely strips you of the power to act. Start asking "What can I do now?" instead of "Why is this happening to me?". Small, independent steps quickly dismantle the illusion of helplessness.

Is it possible to independently reprogram my thinking for luck?

Yes, it is entirely feasible through regular work with affirmations and a success journal. Record your small victories daily to train your brain to register the positive. Gradually, old neural connections will weaken, and you will begin to see opportunities where you previously saw dead ends. The key to this process is discipline and the daily repetition of new mindsets.

Do I need to change my social circle to become luckier?

Your environment is critically important because it shapes your perception of what is normal. Interacting with pessimists only feeds your fears and limiting beliefs. Try to have more contact with those who have already achieved success or maintain a positive outlook. Their example will help you believe that luck is a result of self-improvement, not a privilege of the chosen few.

How can I stop fearing failure and start taking action?

Accept the fact that mistakes are an inevitable part of the journey and a valuable source of experience. Fear blocks development, causing you to miss out on profitable opportunities. Start with small tasks where the risk is minimal to "train" your decisiveness. The more actions you take, the higher the probability that one of them will turn out to be your lucky break.

How long does it take to see the first results from changing my mindsets?

The first changes in self-perception and behavior are noticeable within 2–3 weeks of regular practice. However, a deep cognitive restructuring and the appearance of major "strokes of luck" usually take about 3 months. The brain needs time to adjust to new perceptual filters. Remember that luck is the cumulative effect of your daily thoughts.

Why is it important to visualize goals to attract luck?

Visualization helps your brain clearly recognize the right opportunities in the real world. When you imagine success in detail, your subconscious begins to function like a navigator, picking out useful information from the general noise. This isn't magic; it is the tuning of the brain's reticular activating system. Dedicate at least 5–10 minutes to this every morning.

We've thoroughly explored how chronic failures are not a coincidence, but rather a consequence of internal beliefs and behavioral patterns. We've analyzed their roots and discussed practical steps to overcome them. But what do you do next? How do you translate this knowledge into real changes in your life? I once found myself in a similar situation, where I had a lot of theoretical knowledge, but my life wasn't getting any better. This is what prompted me to create the step-by-step guide «The Labyrinth of Life». This book is a practical guide that will help you not only understand the causes of your failures but also start acting to get out of a «black streak» once and for all and get your life on track. To begin your journey toward change, simply go back to the very beginning, to the «Introduction» section.