When Melancholy Strikes: How to Tell a Bad Mood from the Beginning of Serious Problems?
There are moments in everyone's life when melancholy strikes. The weather outside is gray, nothing brings you joy, and sometimes you just want to lie down and stare at the ceiling. Such periods can last for a day or two and, as a rule, pass on their own. This is a normal part of human life. However, what should you do if this feeling doesn't go away? What if melancholy becomes your constant companion, if it prevents you from working, socializing, and enjoying life? This is the moment when the question arises: is this just a bad mood or something more serious?
Unfortunately, many people ignore these signals, considering them a temporary weakness. They try to «pull themselves together» or «just distract themselves,» but it doesn't work. Ignoring these signals can lead to serious consequences, such as depression. The key difference lies in the duration, intensity, and impact on your life. In this article, we'll take a detailed look at how to distinguish temporary melancholy from the first signs of serious problems, and we'll give you practical advice on what to do in each of these cases.
1. Temporary Melancholy: It's Normal
A bad mood is a natural reaction of our psyche to various external and internal factors. For example, we can feel melancholy because of bad weather, fatigue, hormonal changes, or minor setbacks. This state usually doesn't last long—from a few hours to a couple of days—and doesn't affect your ability to live a full life. When you're sad, you can still work, socialize with friends, and enjoy the little things.
Signs of temporary melancholy:
- Transience: The sadness passes as soon as the cause disappears. For example, after a good night's sleep or a walk in the fresh air.
- Variability: Your emotions can change throughout the day. You might be sad in the morning but feel better by evening.
- Controllability: You can consciously improve your mood. For example, listen to your favorite music, meet up with friends, or watch a good movie.
- Maintaining interests: You maintain an interest in what you used to enjoy. You may be sad, but you still want to do your hobbies or see your loved ones.
In this case, you don't need to do anything supernatural. Just allow yourself to be sad without blaming yourself. Watch a sad movie, listen to your favorite music. Sometimes the best way to deal with sadness is to live through it.
2. When Melancholy Becomes a Signal for Action
If the melancholy doesn't go away for several weeks, if it prevents you from living your life, and if it's accompanied by other symptoms, it may be a sign of more serious problems, such as depression. Depression is not just a bad mood but a serious medical condition that requires treatment. It's like a chronic black streak that's impossible to get out of without help.
Warning signs to pay attention to:
- Duration: If your depressed mood lasts for more than two weeks.
- Loss of interest (anhedonia): You lose interest in what used to bring you joy. Your favorite hobbies, friends, and work all seem pointless.
- Changes in behavior: You have sleep problems (insomnia or, conversely, excessive sleepiness), changes in appetite (loss or, conversely, increase), and you avoid socializing with people.
- Physical symptoms: Chronic fatigue that doesn't go away even after rest, headaches, and digestive problems.
- Feelings of guilt and worthlessness: You constantly blame yourself and feel that you are a bad person, that you are not capable of anything.
If you notice these symptoms in yourself, it doesn't mean you're a bad or weak person. It means that you need help, and you should take it very seriously.
3. What to Do When Melancholy Becomes Chronic?
If you suspect that your melancholy is not just a bad mood but something more serious, don't ignore it. Here are a few practical steps that will help you cope with it:
- Step 1: Acknowledge the problem.
- Tell yourself: «I'm not okay, and that's fine.» Acknowledging the problem is the first and most important step to solving it. Stop blaming yourself.
- Seek help. Talk to loved ones who understand you. The most important thing is to seek help from a specialist: a psychologist or a psychotherapist. They will help you understand the causes of your condition and find solutions.
- Step 2: Create an «activity schedule.»
- Don't try to «move mountains» all at once. Start with the smallest actions: a walk in the fresh air, cooking a simple lunch, or talking to a friend.
- Structure your day. Depression robs us of structure. Create a simple schedule for the day: wake up, breakfast, a walk, some task. It shouldn't be complicated. The main thing is to structure your day.
- Step 3: Take care of your body.
- Proper nutrition, sleep, and physical activity are the foundation. Our emotional state is directly dependent on our physical health.
- Physical exercise is a powerful antidepressant. It increases the levels of serotonin and dopamine. Start small: 15 minutes of walking a day.
Remember that fighting melancholy is not a race. It's a marathon. Your task is not to defeat it in one day but to simply move forward, step by step. And every step you take is a small victory that brings you closer to recovery. Ignoring these signals is the most dangerous thing you can do.
We've discussed that our failures and bad moods are not always an accident but rather a consequence of internal beliefs and behavioral patterns. We've seen that the root of depression is in our internal blocks, not in external circumstances. Understanding these reasons is, of course, an important step. But what do you do next? How do you translate this knowledge into real-life changes? I once found myself in a similar situation, where I had a lot of theoretical knowledge, but my life was not getting better. This is what prompted me to create the step-by-step guide «The Labyrinth of Life.» This book is a practical guide that will help you not only understand the causes of your failures but also start taking action to permanently get out of your «black streak» and get your life back on track. To begin your journey toward change, simply go to the very beginning, to the «Introduction» section.
